Why are you not millionaires?
A thread I have found intriguing on NLP Connections that prompted the following rambling from me… In a nutshell the person is asking if you are all so good at NLP then why aren’t you all millionaires… Valid question but from who’s model of the world does he speak?
Please note I have altered the identity of the person and any resemblance to anyone you may think it could possibly be is purely a mind read… Enjoy…
I know someone who at 29yrs old was sooooo broke to the extent where he went to the shop one day and asked if he could have 10 lambert and butler ciggies on the strap (they were £1.10p at the time). Every intention of paying later that day and expecting the fags to be handed over without consideration, he was wrong… he was refused… It changed his life…
He walked out the shop and thought to himself “that will never happen to me again”… Within 4 years he had created a computer business and a property development business and had his first £1,000.000 in the bank. Things were plain sailing from there and everything he seemed to touch turned to gold (he could do nothing wrong) and the £££££’s just kept rolling in… At one time he looked and had assets worth over 6 million, people in place doing his work for him, delegating became second nature whilst leaving himself to live the lifestyle he thought being a millionaire was all about…
1st class everywhere, Only the finest wines (no more white cider), 5* Hotels and limousine travel… Oh and no more thought or precision to any business deals anymore, It was all too easy. Actually it was all getting a bit out of hand especially when deep down something seemed to be missing.
Then after watching some TV and sensing the feelings of intrigue and excitement came a new love in his life… No Limit Holdem Poker. A new found obsessive type zest and a new way of living on the edge, initially playing ‘virtual’ free money games; culminating onto playing high stakes cash and pitting his wits against some of the best in the field… Eventually he was on TV playing for high stakes and then onto the Bellagio to play in the world series of poker for a $30,000,000 prizepool… People were in awe of him and at the lifestyle he possessed, it all seemed so easy…
But deep down in the abyss of his unconscious he was ‘lost’, had no sense of purpose and couldn’t understand what was going on or why. He realised poker (although he was passionate about it) was just filling the gaps of what seemed to be an empty void. Whilst in the process getting fat and unhealthy and lazy. He also realised that the people that were working for him (his trusted steeds) didn’t care about his business or the people he did business with like he ‘had’. As a result his business took a huge hit and suffered great losses…
He thought to himself one night after another angry outburst, “how can I manage my own state more effectively?” and as he said it to himself he looked up at his bookshelf and saw a book called ‘The NLP Workbook’… He read the first two pages, jumped on the internet and booked on a Practitioner course…
The rest is history…
He said that he realised that after the ‘ciggie’ incident where he decided it wasn’t going to happen again that he’d had a vision that day a representation of himself and had actualised it in the space of a few years. After learning NLP it allowed him to backtrack through his past experiences and realise that all he needed to do was go beyond his previous dreams. Stay mindfull of what he really wants to achieve and how he plans on doing it…
Poker taught him about life, and probability, and variance… When someone is holding cards you can only make a best guess at what’s out there, you can never be 100% certain (ever)… Variance comes in waves and you have to sometimes weather the storm. They say a smooth sea never made a skilled mariner…
Money can’t buy you any of the above, although it did give him the opportunity to seek some of the best trainers out there. More experiences on offer in the playground of life. Witnessing the greedy and the Egotistical was fascinating learning and not always revealing themselves at first because hindsight is a great teacher. Then witnessing the absolutist thinking of certain schools and the near religious type dogma that existed. Reminded him of when he was the over cocky businessman that thought he had life sewn up and that his way was the only way… Doodling in business meetings, ignoring the details, dismissing the doom and gloom merchants because they were boring, and missing golden opportunities to grow even further…
Mind you he says it’s the best experience he’s ever had, It taught him more about people and about himself and about the paradoxes of success & failiure…
Moreover, he tends to Agree with John Grinder on success being extremely boring sometimes. Actually it wasn’t until he started looking at the ‘pitfalls’ and realising that they were one of the biggest resources he owned that the true aha moments emerged. He just had to be brave enough to brush his ego aside and accomodate them as part of being human. His mis-takes could be learned from…
I communicate with him constantly and he knows he’s one of the wealthiest people I am proud to be associated with… (Wealth as in ‘Richness in experience’)… He likes to think he Spends his knowledge like a millionaire intent on going broke whilst constantly learning and applying and developing… He always ‘wants to know more’…
He can tell you from experience that being a millionaire is sometimes not all it’s cracked up to be…
He also says that if he can do it… Anyone can… And I believe him…
Finding the failiure in success from time to time can take a while… Finding the success in failiure is where you get the opportunity to embrace THE PITFALLS…
Wayne
August 22nd, 2010
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